Give your newer sisters and brothers-in-WordPress one piece of advice based on your experiences blogging.
If you’re a new blogger, what’s one question you’d like to ask other bloggers?
I find today’s prompt one that came on a day I needed it. I am new to this whole Blogging world and yes, I am just going to admit it….. I am a little dis-heartened and discouraged.
I have been a writer for years. Somehow I can covey my thoughts so much easier then spoken word. This past September, after the prodding of several friends, I decided to start a blog. I had lots to say, and I thought, “Piece of cake!”
On September 25, 2015 I published my very first Blog. I shared it on Facebook and it spread like wild fire! “I’m a hit!” was my immediate response. I had visions of millions of people reading my words, and conversations starting up all over the world.
“Hey, did you read Life With Jess today? She is freakin hilarious and so spot on!”
“I don’t know about you, but Life with Jess just spoke to me today. Simply a must read!”
“What about that latest post by that crazy awesome redhead? The world is such a happier place with her light-hearted and thoughtful posts!”
Surely I am not the only one who had these visions….
So with fire, passion, and an abundance of confidence I wrote my second Blog. I hit the publish button, shared again on Facebook, and then popped myself some popcorn to set and what the praise and accolades roll in.
Imagine my shock and surprise when my second Blog post was not as successful. What happened? What was wrong with people? Could they not see I had poured my heart out and they had just stepped all over it?!?!?!?
I am just going to admit it, I was angry, bitter, and out for blood. The same people, who just days before were sharing my Blog and raving over my words, now were no where to be found. My own mother didn’t read it until a few days later, and didn’t even bother to hit the like button much less make a comment. Clearly the problem was with my audience. NOT me!
While discouraged, I refused to accept defeat. I wrote each week faithfully. Some post were more successful than others and sometimes no one read at all. One week I just didn’t post. Who cares if I missed a week?
That evening I was flooded with messages wanting to know where my Blog was for the week. Suddenly I was very humble. I realized it wasn’t about all the comments, and likes, but more about the people reading my words. It’s true…. I tend to think of myself a little more highly then I should at times. It is the redhead in me, and sometimes I need a good kick in my rump to bring me back down to earth. While I was writing about noble and real issues, I wasn’t thinking of my audience as much as I was the responses I would get for my words. I never once gave thought to those who were actually reading my words.
With my new found perspective, I wrote more frequently. No longer was I writing for comments or likes, I was now writing to connect with the person reading my thoughts. I became more transparent and real and let my emotions guide me instead of conceited logic. As luck would have it, I found these Daily Prompts. They have taught me so much, expanded me to a broader audience, and given me some great feedback.
While hearing from our audience, and relishing in their praises and accolades, is needed from time to time, it is NOT the definition of success. I now know success in my Blog is about me writing to inspire and encourage, not to gain fame or notoriety. Perhaps there is someone out there going though the same issue, or maybe they are having the same kind of rotten day as I am. They can read my words and say, “YES! Someone else gets it! Maybe I’m not alone after all!” That is the greatest reward I could ever aspire to achieve.